Here I am, really worried about my “situation” and they think I am
Can’t a 34
year old woman experience a mid-life crisis?
According to the good ol’ Wpedia,
Midlife crisis is a term coined in 1965 by Elliot Jaques stating a
time where adults come to realize their own mortality and how much time is left
in their life. A midlife crisis is experienced by many people during the
midlife transition when they realize that life may be more than halfway over.
Sometimes, a crisis can be triggered by transitions experienced in these years,
such as andropause or menopause, the death of parents or other causes of grief,
unemployment or underemployment, realixing that a job or career is hated but
not knowing how else to earn an equivalent living, or children leaving home.
People may reassess their achievements in terms of their dreams. The result may
be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day-to-day life or situation,
such as in career, work-life balance, marriage, romantic relationships, large
expenditures, or physical appearance.
And since I am some-what an “old soul”, it is only natural for my “midlife
crisis” episodes to come early no?
No matter how I prepped talk myself, it is difficult for me to just
bounce back to my annoying self. I keep
telling myself my infamous lines “Do what
makes you happy” or “Forget and move on”, well, it is easier said than done.
*rolls eyes* A role model I am not.
My dad is right. I am a very stubborn person.
So right now, I am searching for the solution to world peace, because
that would be an easier task. As well as Christmas tips, etc. Inspired by the
word “Quirky” which most of the contestants in some top model do not
understand *boo*, I am still determined to make this year’s Christmas the best ever.
A holiday would be better, but I decided
to have an AWESOME Christmas this year instead.
Life is short. We need to CREATE
good memories no?
Yes, I will try not to be hangat-hangat tahi ayam.
I was at the Hitz.FM Birthday
Invasion last week. I felt really bad about Ekiel missing Greyson Chance’s
showcase the other time, so I managed to get some tickets and persuade the
sister to drive us there. I was happy to see other parents waiting patiently
for their kids, outside and inside the concert ground. Some parents were even dancing to Jakeman
towards the end of the concert.
Surprisingly, Ekiel did not enjoy
himself one bit. He complained the music was too loud and the girls next to us
were annoying. They were. Like MTV kids gone mental.
The saddest thing was he just stood
there all grumpy, and even disapproved my dancing with his evil eye. He said “Don’t
be stupid Mommy!”
Wait till he starts clubbing, I am
so going to give him hell.
** I just found out that my parents
want to “match make” one of my brothers with their friend’s daughter.
“Why they no match make me and my single sisters?”
mom’s allergy to seafood and dad’s barely-there cooking skills, we took dad out
for some serious seafood binging the moment mom went out of town.
All my life,
I had only been to five seafood restaurants here in KK. Sad but true. So when
my brother recommended Gayang, we agreed. He assured us the drive wasn’t that
drive would be nice I thought.
all, my sudden runny nose was a pain. Then it rained. Heavily. The short drive
was anything but short plus my sister somehow got lost so we had to make an
ever longer drive. Like Ekiel said, why did we drive to the end of the road
just to have crabs?
Now, when we
finally reached the restaurant around 6.45pm, the place was super packed.
Because I was nicely sneezing away, I didn’t go ohhh and ahhh over the
aquariums with the fresh “dinner”. I did manage to order my Kam Heong mud crab in between my sniffs
because a lot of blogs gave it a thumbs up.
not their biggest plus point.
-They do not clear the mess the moment the guests
left the tables
-We had to find an empty table on our own
-We were seated for almost 30-min without anyone
taking our order for drinks, nor set the table with cutleries
-Due to whatever service system they were using
guests who came later was served first
-The no smiling staffs get another two points
-Plenty of parking
-They take your order before you even find yourself
-The bill comes immediately after you ask for
are not really adventurous when it comes to food. My son didn’t even want to
try any of the dishes so we had to order omelette for him.
1kg – RM30
(4 medium-sized crabs)
There was a
lot of curry taste going on for my liking. But the crab was meaty and sweet.
1kg – RM35 (Medium-sized
prawns more than enough for 5 persons)
buttered prawn should be salty but this dish was sweet. The prawns were
1kg – RM50
(4 medium-sized crabs)
This was my
favourite. The taste was just right and the crunch was just perfect.
Vegetable with Egg
plate (Enough for 5 persons)
best I ever had but it was good
served coconut pudding (chargeable) for dessert.
The ambiance was like any other seafood restaurant. Minus the few tissues on the floor, the place was fairly clean.
One thing to do is check your bills before paying. I’m sure it was
just human error but they charged us for peanuts and fruit pickles which we
The fireworks and firecrackers display wasn't as great as the CNY Dragon in 1988. This year was just average. There was only one home at my lane who burnt some crackers. The rest of us just enjoy watching other people 'burning' their money.
The first and last time I took the local train
was to Papar more than 20 years ago for a school trip. I don’t remember much
from that experience except for the uncomfortable seats and the tunnel.
There is something about tunnels that excites
me till this very day.
Some historical facts on the railway system in
Sabah can be found here.
The North Borneo Railway (NBR) steam train ride
is only available every Wednesday and Saturday. The train departs from the
Tanjung Aru train station at about 10am.
When you reach the train station, get your
ticket and your ‘train passport’ at the NBR Counter, opposite the entrance to
the train platform. Before you board the
train, remember to get your ‘train passport’ stamped.
The atmosphere of the station is lively and fun
with the music from the colonial era blasting over the speaker. The friendly
train staff dressed in white and khaki uniforms complete with the pith helmets
welcomes you to board one of five the carriages.
As the train slowly departs from the station, a
continental breakfast of assorted pastries and croissant is served with coffee
The view along the route changes as you pass by
each station. From the Kota Kinabalu International Airport to the Petagas War
Memorial, commercial centres to water villages and the glittering waters of the
South China Sea to the delightful paddy fields.
One thing that doesn’t change though is the
friendly faces of the locals who eagerly waves at the passengers as the train
pass by. Even after riding the train many times, it doesn’t get old.
The first stop the steam train makes is at the
Kinarut Station. Passengers are encouraged to visit the small town of Kinarut
or the Tien Shi Temple located nearby.
The second stop is at Papar station. I
recommend you to talk a short walk to the nearby market where you get to see
the colourful everyday lives of the locals. They are very friendly, helpful and
always ready to pose for the camera, if you ask them nicely. There are also handicrafts, food and fruits
for you to buy as souvenirs.
Try and look for the local Sabahan offerings
like fruits: - Tarap, Bambangan, Durian, Rambutan. Snacks – Kuih Cincin, Kuih Lidah, Kuih Amplang,
Thirty minutes is not enough to see everything
but it is sufficient to see a little bit of everything.
You could also stay at the train station and watch the head of the steam train making it's turn at the turntable to pull back the train back to KK.
On our back to the Tanjung Aru station, a
delicious Tiffin lunch of Chicken Briyani Rice, vegetables, fish and satay with
fresh fruits are served. For dessert, there is ice cream! What a joy it is to
enjoy the ice cream onboard the steam train on a hot afternoon.
The view is
pleasant and the experience of boarding a steam train older than my grandma is
definitely one of its kind. I sit on the train and I forget about the rest of
the world. The sound of the engine is surprisingly comforting. For real.
There are not many steam train left in this lifetime, be a part of this British Colonial history in Sabah.
To an almost
7-year old, the world is simple.
Man meet woman. Fall in love. Get married. Have kids. Live happily ever after.
So when things
didn’t work out that way, they would innocently question the whys.
The day I
dreaded arrived not so gracefully.
We were having our nightly ‘talk’ when he whispered to me.
“Mommy, who did you marry?”
married and have children. So since you gave birth to me, who did you marry?”
Lim, actually pretended to sleep and ignored the question.
he is my son who inherited my stubbornness, he asked me the question again few
days later. This time I distracted him with something on TV.
By now, I
can tell when he is about to jump into this topic. Like the other night. I quickly
change the topic when he suddenly starts talking about marriage and babies. I
have never been more thankful for his short attention span.
For a boy his age, he is sure thinking about this a great deal.
I had 7
years to think about this and yet I have come up with no solution. Maybe I should
use the ‘seed story’ like in the movie, The Switch.
I need to come up with a solution quick.
I was the
Christmas grouch and paid my Karma during the New Year.
year, I promise to be nicer during the holidays.
started his Year One with much excitement. By 2nd day of class, he
was determined not to go to school. Ever. It was really difficult to convince
him that education is the best thing I can give him.
He even went
all ‘reverse psychology’ on me.
“I don’t need anything else except you and my family mommy”.
“I miss you
“All I need
is your love”.
Yes, such a
sweet talker that boy.
I do feel
bad I don’t get to spend much time with him during the first few days of
school. In fact on the first day, I had a function and was only able to send
him to class and pick him up the first day. Second day onwards went downhill
according to my mom.
One time, in
between his sobs, he brought it up, about me not making time for him and what
not. My heart breaks but I really had no choice. *sighs*
If this is
how the rest of the year will be like, I will lose my sanity in a couple of weeks.
The only thing I am very certain at this point.
believe CNY is coming soon which means…
I am not ready.