unfortunate incident

Life would not burden you with problems you cannot handle.
Whoever came up with that phrase obviously have never gone through hell and back.

I believe in karma, so when life gives me shit, I try and make baja out of it or clean the mess quietly and willingly, because like pet owners, your pet’s shit is your responsibility.

However, when bad things happened to nice and kind people I know personally, I become upset.
Don’t good things happen to good people anymore?

How did she end up in that mess is beyond me. From a happily ever after to a living hell is not easy no matter how tough you are.

We always read in the newspaper about men who swindles woman. These men would wine and dine them, whispers sweet words of love until the woman is head over heels in love with them when they, the men will bleed the women dry.

When we hear news like this, most wonder what the woman was thinking and she must be DESPERATE for love. When I heard about the news, my first thought was also, “What the hell was she thinking?” *head hangs in shame*

I met this guy at a club. I find him annoying at first because he was endlessly bragging about the his world but we exchanged cards anyway. I must give him credits for his patience. He kept on calling and calling and calling until I gave in and went out with him. He was the total opposite when I first met him. One thing led to another, I was seeing him on a regular basis.

I, usually the sensible one, was intoxicated with the whole sweet talk and attention. But the thing I really enjoyed the most about him was our conversations. We could talk about serious matter to goofy things and we shared the same view about life and people in general. Was I in love? Well, there were no butterflies in the stomach but given time I will surely land on Love Land.

One day, he needed some cash urgently and he “borrowed” some from me. Though the alarm went off in my head, I didn’t think I, Clara Angelicbug, would be a victim. But I did become a victim. When I ask him to return the money, he keeps dodging the question and started avoiding me altogether. He never picked up my call and when I called his office, he was never around. That’s when the realization hit me.

I did threaten to go to the police, but I didn’t. One reason was because the amount was only few hundred ringgit and secondly I was embarrassed it happened to me. Besides, I wasn’t really upset about the money. I was angry at myself because I allowed myself to be a victim.

So, I do somewhat understand what these women were thinking. We never thought that we could be a target because we are intelligent and independent women but sadly, we are soft hearted people who feel sorry for our loved ones when they are in need of help. It is not really about being in love and desperation but it’s more about compassion. In fact, this doesn’t happen with these swindling men only but with happened with family members and friends as well. Kesian bah.

Of course there are cases where the women fears the idiot would leave them, now that is what I call ‘desperadee’.

*sighs* It’s tough but that’s life. Someone said “There is a reason for everything that had happened”. The only thing I learned from this is to be more weary of the people I meet and the first alarm bell I hear, I’d run the opposite direction.

I run faster when I meet men who are all talk but no action.

I hope that friend of mine would survive these unfortunate incidents as her dilemma doesn’t only stop there. I don’t know how but I have faith that the Universe will have pity on her. What saddens me more is that, there are people who are taking advantage of this situation. “If you want more information about the guy, you need to pay us X amount of money”.

May these people rot in hell.

I hope I will continue to have a sensible mind and common sense.
I’d rather be the old single crazy women with an octopus in her house than to meet a guy who’ll destroy my life like that.